And then I keep asking myself...is any of this really necessary? My whole goal with this is to make sure B is socialized and stimulated enough...but does it matter this little, or at two or even three? I feel like it does, but I'm no expert. Is it silly to have B in "school" this early? Or is it perfectly reasonable considering he only has me all day and god knows I'm no childhood development expert. My idea of stimulating a toddler is having him stand in his playpen while I feed him blueberries and The Sopranos plays on the TV.
So I keep vacillating. Yes, I want the best for him and to make sure he isn't missing out. But boy, $300 a month is a big chunk, especially when it's for so short a time each week that it's not like I'll get any benefit from it, not really. So is it just a very expensive experiment?
Yesterday at the park we encountered a boy that was born three days after B, and yet seemed miles ahead in development. He was walking like a pro - not crawling at all - and really communicating with his mother, naming objects and responding to her requests. B does none of these things - we don't communicate at all, and he makes zero attempts at naming things or doing something I ask. I'm not saying I think he's delayed or anything - I'm pretty convinced he's totally on point with his development. But it makes me wonder if I'm not doing enough to bring it out in him; I assume he can't understand me and won't do what I ask, so I don't try. Am I selling him short? The last few days I've really made an effort to name things, ask him to hand me things, etc. The moment he actually says "mama" with intent or calls something by its name will be a revelation to me. He's very verbal and makes all kinds of complex sounds all the time, but says no intentional words. Then I go on babycenter and everyone's 14 month olds can say five or six words. Or are these mothers just full of it?
Anyway, in more positive news, the magical naptimes have continued. I guess much like the talking you just have to wait for them to be ready, sometimes - he just seems to know when I take off his pants and pull down the window shade, it's quiet time. He plays nicely for a while and then sleeps, and never wakes until I go get him. It's puzzling. He used to wake up from naps just hysterical and be cranky for ages after. Now he's all smiley and ready to go. What was the secret? I may never know, but I'm certainly grateful!