I have chosen the expensive, highly qualified doula and sent her a deposit. I feel like I'm in good hands, and I guess it's all about feeling safe and guided during these times. I've given a lot of thought to the whole getting to the hospital/watching Bobby issue. And the only thing I can think of is having a vast network of people who can agree to *maybe* being available for one of these tasks, with the understanding that they can say no because I have lots of other people to call. I don't think it's a good idea to rely on just one or two people, again not when everyone I know lives far from me, works, and has kids. So I might just start asking people, "do you think you could drive me to the hospital, but if not no big deal because I've got lots of other people I can call?" I think that's the only way to handle it. I also can always take a cab. I have a sitter for B but it may take her hours to get here from San Diego; if my sister happens to be here then that solves some problems. And of course if I have a scheduled whatever then all of this is moot. But I'd much sooner have a normal, non-induced labor and deal with logistics rather than an induced labor with everything in place, believe me.
B and I have been having a pretty good time lately. It might just be Christmas cheer and/or little adjustments I've made here and there, but I'm feeling less unhappy about the whole toddler age than I was a week or two ago. Less crying and tantrums, more laughter and hugs and fun. That's always a good thing.
I remember when I was pregnant with Sidekick all I knew was that my best friend would be in the delivery room with me (I have no family in the same state). Beyond that, I was "winging" everything else. I even drove myself to the hospital 5 1/2 hours after my water broke and told my friend to get things settled with her family before she headed to the hospital. So... I was in L&D alone for about three hours before she made it over. It was all good. Although, I know I'd be more worried about juggling Sidekick and a dog. It was so much easier when I just had to worry about the dog. : ) You will be fine... whatever happens and whomever helps you along the way. Sound like you have a good support system.
ReplyDeleteIf it's at night and my dad would be available to watch the kids, I could be a back up for hospital transportation and/or covering for B until the sitter got there.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your kind offer, I will add you to the list of "potential helpers"
DeleteSounds like a good plan! And you know, people are much more likely to say "yes" to helping when you are in labor versus some random time. Everyone gets excited for a new baby!
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