Shortly after a texting conversation with Bed Rest Friend while watching the season finale of Downton Abbey, she had her baby. He's about six weeks premature but seems to be doing well. He pretty much popped out. Between her and my Mom Guru friend and her 55 minute labor, I have to admit I'm a little jealous they had such fast, (relatively) painless labors, after the three days of pure hell I went through. I know it's fucked up to be jealous of someone that spent months on bed rest, had a cerclage, etc. It's fucked up, right? Meh. I guess old habits die hard.
Yesterday I got a wild hair up my ass to get a cutting garden going. I have some beautiful white calla lillies that pop up this time of year that someone thoughtfully planted in the back corner of my yard - I enjoy them in vases for months and they require no care at all, not even watering. So I went out and bought a bunch of bulbs. I have never in my life planted bulbs, but it looks pretty easy. I also made a Thai curry last night for the first time ever, and despite all the recipe fails I've had over the last few weeks (of all the new recipes I've tried since Jan 1st I wouldn't repeat a single one of them), this one I'd actually make again; it was excellent. So I guess the moral of the story is sometimes stepping out of your comfort zone has its rewards.
Speaking of trying new things, I dug deep into my pockets and purchased a day ticket to Disneyland so B and I can attend "Dapper Day" there next Sunday. It's a special day where people dress up fancy (usually with a vintage flair) and go to local venues. There is a sub group of babywearers going that I'll join up with. One thing I don't get, though, is how to wear a giant covering baby carrier with a cute vintage outfit! Anyway it'll be B's first Disneyland trip which is pretty momentous. Since most of my friends take their kids on practically a weekly basis, annual passes are for sure in our future. It'll be a yearly investment in our fun and socialization.
Today I'm hosting the first mommy & me meetup at my yoga place. I hope people enjoy it! I also have finally nailed down my first SMC meeting for the women who have contacted me through the SMC website - it'll be at my house on March 17. It's mostly thinkers which is an interesting group to start with - there are so many thoughts at that time, so many philosophical arguments. I so wish I had had a positive role model when I was considering this path. Hopefully I can be that for people. That yes, you can be a single mother by choice and still have an orderly house and put on mascara every day. It is possible.
Yesterday I got a wild hair up my ass to get a cutting garden going. I have some beautiful white calla lillies that pop up this time of year that someone thoughtfully planted in the back corner of my yard - I enjoy them in vases for months and they require no care at all, not even watering. So I went out and bought a bunch of bulbs. I have never in my life planted bulbs, but it looks pretty easy. I also made a Thai curry last night for the first time ever, and despite all the recipe fails I've had over the last few weeks (of all the new recipes I've tried since Jan 1st I wouldn't repeat a single one of them), this one I'd actually make again; it was excellent. So I guess the moral of the story is sometimes stepping out of your comfort zone has its rewards.
Speaking of trying new things, I dug deep into my pockets and purchased a day ticket to Disneyland so B and I can attend "Dapper Day" there next Sunday. It's a special day where people dress up fancy (usually with a vintage flair) and go to local venues. There is a sub group of babywearers going that I'll join up with. One thing I don't get, though, is how to wear a giant covering baby carrier with a cute vintage outfit! Anyway it'll be B's first Disneyland trip which is pretty momentous. Since most of my friends take their kids on practically a weekly basis, annual passes are for sure in our future. It'll be a yearly investment in our fun and socialization.
Today I'm hosting the first mommy & me meetup at my yoga place. I hope people enjoy it! I also have finally nailed down my first SMC meeting for the women who have contacted me through the SMC website - it'll be at my house on March 17. It's mostly thinkers which is an interesting group to start with - there are so many thoughts at that time, so many philosophical arguments. I so wish I had had a positive role model when I was considering this path. Hopefully I can be that for people. That yes, you can be a single mother by choice and still have an orderly house and put on mascara every day. It is possible.
That's great that you holding a meeting for thinkers - I got heaps of support online, but IRL would be amazing! Hope it all goes well. I am guessing B will clinch the deal for several of them, I have friend who is now about 30 weeks pregnant as and SMC and she said it was meeting BB that made her finally decide to do it!
ReplyDeleteSMC meetings were really good for me. It was hard though as they got pregnant and I didn't. I felt like I became the fertility expert and then the meetings stopped (because one of the coordinating ladies had her baby and the other got married). I met two of my good friends through those meetings.
ReplyDeleteMaybe when my kiddos get bigger we can meet up and do things like Disneyland. That's down in my neck of the woods. :)
It has crossed my mind that the meetings might get tricky if some of the gals get pregnant and others don't. We all know what a minefield that could be!
DeleteDefinitely a Disneyland date when the kiddos are big enough to run around and enjoy!
What a cute photo! isn't it amazing how much more comfortable the backpack carry is? (although a PITA to get in and out of.)
ReplyDeleteI've actually found my back carry attempts quite painful. I think I'm not adjusted correctly or something. My left shoulder always kills after (like after this picture was taken!)
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