The language amazingness continues. Yesterday in the bathtub he was saying his ABCs and counting to ten. He is also just a bit starting to grasp that he should call me mommy, and he's getting the hang of please, thank you, and bless you. Hearing the baby sneeze and B say "bless you!" just melts my heart.
I went out dancing last night, mainly to judge a contest, and actually had a good time and got to dance a bit thanks to other people of my dance generation also being there to judge. It's rare I get to see any of those people. And for the first time in ages I didn't feel like I was dancing like crap. I think wearing comfortable flat shoes helped. God I hope I get to dance at my own event!
Lately as many of my friends in real life and also online contemplate having a second child, I find myself trying to be a cheerleader for the idea - go for it! It's not as hard as they say! You'll never regret it! One of the many concerns is that your attention will be divided and you'll somehow be depriving one or both kids of attention/resources/love etc. But I see it as a trade off. Your first child gets your undivided attention, but your second child gets your experience. Yes, I don't spend hours playing with Theo. He doesn't come out to events with me, spends a lot of time in the car or another holding device, and in general doesn't get the same level of round-the-clock care his brother did. But he gets me at my best - fully present, joyful, not traumatized by a bad birth experience, relaxed and in control. I feel like all things considered I was pretty on top of things with B, but with your first every day is a new experience - right now I feel confident caring for anyone from birth until two and a half; I get those ages, I speak their language. Anyone older? Forget it. So with Theo, even with him of course not going to be exactly like his brother, I know what to expect. And I have gear/systems in place to handle the next phases - sitting, standing, crawling, everything in the mouth, climbing out of the crib, etc etc. I worry a lot about when/how to move Theo into B's room, and how that'll go over. Well, B was about 18 months when we made that shift so I figure I have a long time to figure it out. Maybe if I make a big deal about getting bunk beds Bobby will be more excited about sharing a room with little brother. I hope like everything else about their relationship so far that the experience will turn out to be a positive one.