tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post8928881683409440283..comments2023-05-27T02:45:24.476-07:00Comments on Chasing The Gerber Dragon: The .1%wottadollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16527435736562324563noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-78980163859237843692013-03-27T18:38:36.994-07:002013-03-27T18:38:36.994-07:00Maybe give it just a *little bit* of time, and see...Maybe give it just a *little bit* of time, and see if that .1% grows larger? If not, then maybe you're really one and done. But if it starts to grow? If you just *can not* get the thought of a second child out of your head? Well... then maybe you should give it a try! I figure, as horrible as pregnancy and childbirth are, they're just a drop in the bucket of the whole experience of having a child. So even if you *were* to have another bad experience, although it's probably fairly unlikely, it wouldn't really last all that long, and then you'd be a mom of two, and B would have a sibling. And isn't *that* really what it's all about? (although, as much as I've been thinking about having a second - eventually, not right now! - this past couple of weeks of major sleep deprivation have me re-thinking that!)Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12437548841903850607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-68691487953277906602013-03-24T14:13:46.714-07:002013-03-24T14:13:46.714-07:00I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum - my 0...I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum - my 0.1% is for not having another child. It sounds to me like your 0.1% is more like 30% these days, though. <br /><br />This is one of those situations where you can't sit down and write a list of pros and cons and rationally make a decision. As Abby wrote on someone else's blog once, there's nothing rational about wanting to have another child.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14647211529119137824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-9376787785488276522013-03-24T07:23:41.611-07:002013-03-24T07:23:41.611-07:00I agree, it sounds like you are thinking of T42......I agree, it sounds like you are thinking of T42...I agree that you'll never know until you try. Obviously, we never have a 100% guarantee of how any endeavor we undertake is going to turn out; that's life. Take some deep breaths and do a little soul searching. Whatever you decide, I know you'll do what's right for you and little B. The Riveting Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03920776915429394231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-16805350902382670642013-03-22T21:22:38.134-07:002013-03-22T21:22:38.134-07:00I was determined to have an easy 2nd pregnancy and...I was determined to have an easy 2nd pregnancy and it sucked (though thankfully it was low-risk). Being single, miserably pregnant, and caring for a young child, while working, is not fun. I was super prepared for both births (intensive natural childbirth class, doula, etc), and both were miserable. My second birth was not faster and easier - instead I had 2 horrible, sleepless weeks of strong prodromal contractions and a miserable labor that ended in emergency c-section (after a vaginal birth with my first). And, yes, my child was born with a congenital birth defect - a minor one, I think, but still an emotional and financial strain, and it came out of the blue. <br /><br />I just write all that to say that there really is no way to truly foresee what a 2nd pregnancy and child will bring. It is a total leap of faith. Of course, I am utterly in love with and cherish both my kids. But having one child only would have been fine too - I truly believe there are pluses and minuses to both scenarios (which is partly why the decision can be so hard, I think). Good luck with it!Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18090532551103414307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-72832399799314845272013-03-22T21:15:37.000-07:002013-03-22T21:15:37.000-07:00I read this as T42 being a foregone conclusion. Co...I read this as T42 being a foregone conclusion. Congrats?! I agree you don't want to have regrets. It might not work, but at least you can try and see what happens. cmgrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08005743027324957289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-54509031075663021162013-03-22T18:21:39.661-07:002013-03-22T18:21:39.661-07:00Hmm, the language you use in most of this post sou...Hmm, the language you use in most of this post sounds an awful lot like you just realized you DO want a second. <br /><br />Just sayin'.<br />Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08856563547693346602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-78849626962865610842013-03-22T13:22:31.545-07:002013-03-22T13:22:31.545-07:00I'm always 99.9999999% sure.
But there's ...I'm always 99.9999999% sure.<br /><br />But there's a baby boom in our family. And our friend group. And oh the squishy little babies make my uterus ache. Of course, I physically cannot carry another child, so all of this is for naught in my head -- but I go there every now and then.<br /><br />http://stopdropandblog.com<br />Jenna Hatfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00395559692981642575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-5239283532552951132013-03-22T12:47:10.498-07:002013-03-22T12:47:10.498-07:00Personally, I would say stick with your gut instin...Personally, I would say stick with your gut instinct. You showed so much strength and courage during your last pregnancy, would you be able to do all that plus take care of B? While I am a big advocate for T42, is it really worth risking your health and B's time with his mother? <br /><br />I would also take the time to really look into why that .1% is yelling so loudly right now. Do you miss being pregnant? Do you just want to give B a sibling to bond with? Do you want the increased responsibility that comes with a second child? Maybe by doing a little soul searching, the answer will come to you and give you some peace of mind. <br /><br /><br /><br />Loreleihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15328570422566719807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-39856631612206403922013-03-22T12:37:40.050-07:002013-03-22T12:37:40.050-07:00Oh yes, I don't doubt it'll be hella hard,...Oh yes, I don't doubt it'll be hella hard, and I am worried about that crushing nausea. But I bet I could find some holistic remedies for that, too. I just feel like there's a healthier, more informed way to go about this, now that I know what I know. Still doesn't mean I'll be successful though, unfortunately.wottadollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16527435736562324563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-74991607786975895322013-03-22T11:16:13.609-07:002013-03-22T11:16:13.609-07:00So much to think about & consider. Not a day g...So much to think about & consider. Not a day goes by that I don't think about T42. <br /><br />The expense of a midwife is so worth it IMO. I would not have made it thru with out mine. (Luckily midwives are covered in our provincial healthcare so I didn't have to decide about cost) <br /><br />Could it be, with #2, that you worry & stress more about this your entire pregnancy rather than just at the end like with B? On top of everything else you worry about during pregnancy? & you didn't mention about the early part of the pregnancy...aren't you worried about wicked morning sickness again & the to-the-bone exhaustion? All this & looking after a toddler?<br /><br />I'm not trying to talk you out of it (even tho it may sound that way)...you're right, that .1% is very loud & can easily drown out the 99.9%thoughts.Tiarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17511522028218347560noreply@blogger.com