tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post8122818703922728148..comments2023-05-27T02:45:24.476-07:00Comments on Chasing The Gerber Dragon: Mama bearwottadollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16527435736562324563noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-75397020655151256902013-08-26T19:47:28.597-07:002013-08-26T19:47:28.597-07:00I've been thinking about this post since I rea...I've been thinking about this post since I read it this morning - what really stood out to me is the DIFFERENCE between you and your mom. Your reaction was because you wanted annoying kids to leave your son alone because you were concerned about him. Not because of what their actions meant for you. I think B can tell that love for him is behind Mama Bear - just like you could tell that your mom's reaction was not motivated out of true concern for you. Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14647211529119137824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-81499026371843973972013-08-26T19:21:07.481-07:002013-08-26T19:21:07.481-07:00I totally get Mama Bear when someone messes with m...I totally get Mama Bear when someone messes with my girl. Another toddler -- daughter of a close friend -- slapped my girl when the mom had stepped out of the room. Luckily I had been given express permission to discipline her if this happened, but it was like my blood pressure instantly went through the roof! Luckily my response -- barking "NO HITTING!" and dumping her on a chair for time out and then fawing over C -- was what the mother wanted, but she probably didn't get how much my blood was boiling. Just for a second. C wasn't hurt but the viciousness of a slap brought out pure adrenaline. I have no doubt that was about being a mama. The kind one is supposed to be.<br /><br />I have no doubt that you were protective in the right way... but that might not help you. I know we all doubt ourselves over the stuff that wasn't taught to us as children. But I think you should trust yourself. You seem like a pretty awesome, and pretty intuitive, mother. <br /><br />Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14992218915423095158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-10717598925873242342013-08-26T05:36:39.510-07:002013-08-26T05:36:39.510-07:00I don't think it's your ego...at all. I...I don't think it's your ego...at all. I'd lose it in that situation. I had a situation at the pool this weekend, Elena started playing with a floaty another girl had abondoned & of course as soon as the girl noticed Elena with it, she tried to take it from her. I told her no, there were plenty of others she could have. Well this brat goes & collects all of them, stacking them on the side of the pool. Elena, innocently, thinks this girl is starting a game so heads over to see. This girl looked like she was gonna go at Elena so I took her & went to the other side of the pool. The father apologized to me for his daughter's behaviour but didn't say anything to the girl. So E & I are on the other side of the pool playing with the floaty & this little brat comes over, tries to take it again then goes out of her way to push past Elena. Again the father apologizes to me for her behaviour but says nothing to her...I don't understand that!! He knows it's unacceptable behaviour yet doesn't teach her not to...okay, that's my rant!!Tiarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17511522028218347560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-69529720326469229672013-08-26T05:17:09.504-07:002013-08-26T05:17:09.504-07:00When I worked at a school-age daycare, sometimes t...When I worked at a school-age daycare, sometimes the tougher kids would be really nasty to the gentler kids, and I could feel my 'Mama Bear' mode get activated -- and these were children I had no parent/child connection to! (Plus, I was only a teen/twenty-something, myself.) That wiring runs deep, and it's intense. Personally, I would give more of a side-eye to a parent who sat in the sidelines and watched her child get trampled under the pretense of toughening him up.Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03644501843801907359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-54741304284279015712013-08-26T03:51:18.864-07:002013-08-26T03:51:18.864-07:00I think it is a matter of intent. Your concern wa...I think it is a matter of intent. Your concern was over B, not your own feelings. We had a similar situation at the pool this summer too. My mamma bear was about to rage on three 12 year old boys, I said to myself they do it one more time, and I will go all scary teacher voice/look on their asses. Turned out that the next time they splash, Isaac wasn't having it, and he gave the most pitiful cry. The offending boy apologized profusely, said Isaac was really cute, and asked me a bunch of questions about him (like can he walk). The boy even returned later to say hi to Isaac a few more times later on. It was a good lesson to me, that sometimes I didn't need to protect him, he had it figured out. In the long run, a splash was a good opportunity for him to voice his own limits (much safer than having a kid throw rocks at him or something).Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04113533500702336140noreply@blogger.com