tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post6404868871574963194..comments2023-05-27T02:45:24.476-07:00Comments on Chasing The Gerber Dragon: That new sperm donor showwottadollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16527435736562324563noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-80101410613940948262013-12-06T04:57:26.709-08:002013-12-06T04:57:26.709-08:00I have not seen the show so cannot comment. But ch...I have not seen the show so cannot comment. But choose a non-ID disclosure donor, not by intent but because his was the profile I liked the most. The egg donor is non-ID as well. I am comfortable with this decision. I have some information and pictures I can share with B, but other than that I have no interest in pursuing half-siblings etc. I also feel uncomfortable for anyone to be trying to find a non-ID donor seems like a huge invasion of privacy IMHO.Sunflowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12666376683383060063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-69687189927325429792013-12-05T22:21:15.839-08:002013-12-05T22:21:15.839-08:00I chose id release donors for this reason. My don...I chose id release donors for this reason. My donor embryos were created with an anonymous donor though. If my kids want to pursue finding their donor, I will honor that, but with a stern warning that he may not want any contact and explanation of what conditions he donated under and what that might mean. It would be similar to the show in that it will affect a large number of donor siblings, so it could get weird. But my kids will have priority. <br /><br />I wonder if there was even an option to not be anonymous back when that guy donated. I think the id release thing is relatively new. But I agree that finding out he chose not to respond to the first letter as a pretty clear sign that he likely doesn't want to be contacted. It will be interesting to see where it goes. Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07341444268342551783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-58596839705124102632013-12-05T14:58:57.643-08:002013-12-05T14:58:57.643-08:00I have DVRd the show but haven't found time to...I have DVRd the show but haven't found time to watch either episode yet. Sidekick's donor happened to be an anonymous donor. I'm actually okay with that, and I'm perfectly okay with not knowing about any of his half siblings. In fact, the idea of being able to get in contact with his half siblings is actually unsettling for me. If he chooses to seek them out when he is older, that's fine, but I don't have any plans to do so. On Sidekick's first birthday (and every birthday from here on out), we released a balloon in honor of his donor because without him, I wouldn't have my son. Sometimes I think that this mysterious guy is really missing out on something amazing... my awesome son!SMC in STLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15567096902374866062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-17935435535611046942013-12-05T10:50:29.100-08:002013-12-05T10:50:29.100-08:00I somehow missed the first episode, even though I ...I somehow missed the first episode, even though I could've sworn I'd already set my DVR. But anyway, I watched the second one, and I liked it. I'm not totally sure what I think about them seeking out a non-ID release donor, other than I think they have a point that they have a right to know SOMETHING. Even if it's not much, and even if it's anonymous communication through the bank. It almost seems wrong to me that the donor wouldn't agree to communicate through the bank, without the kids knowing his identity or having any direct communication with him. I'm also not surprised that the kids with a dad have the most trouble with the topic, especially the guy who has a sister who's both of his parents' biological child. But I'm also glad he's on board now with looking for the donor. I hope they find him and that he's not an asshole about it...Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12437548841903850607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-40425475938568468432013-12-04T03:53:37.579-08:002013-12-04T03:53:37.579-08:00Having only watched the one episode, I felt that t...Having only watched the one episode, I felt that the twins with the mom and dad had a healthy attitude. They knew he was a donor and their dad was their dad. They had known their whole lives that they were donor-conceived, so they were comfortable to have contact with 12 of their donor sibs. They just didn't have much interest in the donor besides to see what physical characteristics they might share with him which they could do with a picture. This one did mention the mom's interest in meeting the donor while exploring the dad's discomfort. So I agree that this is a much more even view so far.Nellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03273965620333616949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-88754872535886274542013-12-03T22:20:38.866-08:002013-12-03T22:20:38.866-08:00I'm starting to wish I had cable so I could se...I'm starting to wish I had cable so I could see this show that I'm hearing so much about. In all the research I did prior to deciding to be a SMC I found that the donor conceived children that were part of "normal" (mom and dad) families were the ones that struggled. I'm very curious to know if they ever do find the donor and what his thoughts are on being found. Annelise's donor is not an open ID donor (the lab we used only used double blind annon. donors), but I believe I have enough information that a PI wouldn't have too much trouble tracking him down. While I respect his right to privacy, there is a part of me that thinks that if Annelise ever feels that she needs to know who he is I'll do what ever I can to find him.SurlyMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15933109106254963802noreply@blogger.com