tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post5143957663805798666..comments2023-05-27T02:45:24.476-07:00Comments on Chasing The Gerber Dragon: Not a toddler personwottadollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16527435736562324563noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-2104994313672137742014-09-11T19:41:00.009-07:002014-09-11T19:41:00.009-07:00I hear you! I think that all kids go through stage...I hear you! I think that all kids go through stages when they're particularly easy or difficult. Maybe moms who dearly want to be with their children *all the time* have kids who are in an easy stage right now (...or maybe they just can't picture accurately what it will be like?).<br /><br />From what you've written, I think that B may be more challenging than most kids his age - just because he's so high energy and driven. Hang in there. Maybe by the time he's in elem school, he'll be sunny and easy, right around the time some of his peers are giving their parents sass and making their lives tough.<br /><br />Also, don't feel guilty about wanting time to yourself. You have a life and interests and talents outside of child-rearing - you should be allowed to pursue those things. I hope it will soon be easier for you!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17299597700549075924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-72470615927648426952014-09-11T18:06:03.869-07:002014-09-11T18:06:03.869-07:00I have great admiration and respect for you duking...I have great admiration and respect for you duking it out at home alone every day. It became very clear to me, as my maternity leave was ending, that apart from the massive guilt I felt about giving M to someone else to look after, I was pretty glad to get back to adult interaction and stimulation. I am simply not cut out for it - don't have the patience.<br /><br />Go easy on yourself! It is really hard work, with little reward right now for you.Tara Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08822265722745137967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-13838675728839324032014-09-11T08:51:37.580-07:002014-09-11T08:51:37.580-07:00I totally understand. I absolutely loved the baby ...I totally understand. I absolutely loved the baby stage and found it very easy and wonderful. I am more exhausted than ever now that Sidekick is two, and some people think I am crazy. While Sidekick is more independent, he wants to play with me more, and I find that to be less than fun all of the time (and he's in school five days a week while I work!). The constant disciplining, reasoning, entertaining, compassion, daily routine, etc. can drain the shit out of me sometimes. SMC in STLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15567096902374866062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-70107594791527601342014-09-11T06:56:43.370-07:002014-09-11T06:56:43.370-07:00I totally appeciate your honesty. If I could skip...I totally appeciate your honesty. If I could skip 2.5-3.5 I'd be a very happy woman.<br /><br />The assumptions behind this post really surprise me....I hardly think that most women are desperate to be SAHMs. Some, yes. Certainly not most. I adore my kids but I would *hate* motherhood if I had to stay home with them day in and day out. They have a happier mother because they go to school and I work. Most women I work with would say the same thing...gwinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04840990153103781272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-44319458704751778372014-09-11T05:47:16.109-07:002014-09-11T05:47:16.109-07:00I could never be a SAHM or work from home. I am at...I could never be a SAHM or work from home. I am at work from sun up to sun down 3 days a week, and it gives me a chance to be in the adult world and miss my toddler. Even so, it's not enough, because being at work doesn't count as down time. So she is in "school" a half day twice a week, while I go to the library next door and study or do whatever. Or sometimes just shower and do whatever. I'm seriously considering putting her in school 3 days a week starting in the winter!<br /><br />But when I AM at home, going crazy, running out of ideas for my toddler whose attention span is 1 minute long, who needs my non-stop attention, I try to think about the fact that in only a few years she won't want me to hold her, or play with her. She'll have friends and "better" things to do. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-47378259093674029082014-09-11T02:38:50.170-07:002014-09-11T02:38:50.170-07:00I think about how I would love to be a SAHM with E...I think about how I would love to be a SAHM with E...but if I'm being honest, I think I'm the confident parent I am because I go to work everyday, that I get the time away & to be able to reflect on everything at home. It's HARD to be parent 100% of the time. & you don't suck!!!<br /><br />If I can offer one piece of advice when it comes to negotiating rights of toys between two boys it's: don't. When my nephews would argue over any item, I would warn them once to work it out, if they didn't I would take it away, end of story. They learned pretty quickly to work it out...or at the very least to argue quietly, lol. Tiarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17511522028218347560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-24809812575207731432014-09-10T20:50:37.981-07:002014-09-10T20:50:37.981-07:00I really appreciate your honesty! I am a baby to ...I really appreciate your honesty! I am a baby to tween person myself. Once kids hit about age 10 I start finding them annoying. I lived a nightmare when I took my boyfriend's 11 year old daughter on a school "camping" trip to the Boston Museum of Science. I was surrounded by loud, annoying, giggling, screaming girls the entire time. I was truly scared for the future of womankind (10 brain cells shared between 25 girls is not a pretty thing, especially when 9 of those cells are dedicated to talking about how cute the One Direction boys are. I took a few moments to thank the gods I had a son that night.) Around 3am I probably would have taken a cyanide pill if there were any. <br /><br />My son is 18 now and I wish there could have been a way for me to have been a SAHM for his first few years at least but sadly we needed to eat and have a place to live and stuff :( Despite the fact that he spent a ton of time away from me, he still turned out pretty well if I do say so myself. Just like your boys will :-) <br /><br />I always thought it be great to have a large circle of friends with kids of all different ages so we could swap children sometimes. Play to each others strengths so to speak. The adults wouldn't be so burned out and the kids would always have a happy, positive person teaching and interacting with them. At the end of the day head home to snuggle with your own mom and go over the days events. It would be a win-win for everyone. Catie.fieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02428616179025973816noreply@blogger.com