tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post375061083373661138..comments2023-05-27T02:45:24.476-07:00Comments on Chasing The Gerber Dragon: Reflections on the showwottadollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16527435736562324563noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-21644012825830852712013-08-02T22:21:44.671-07:002013-08-02T22:21:44.671-07:00I finally watched it tonight and was really surpri...I finally watched it tonight and was really surprised by the lack of ttc coverage. No agonizing over timing, uterine lining thickness, how many eggs they get, how many fertilize and make it to day 3, etc. No worried 2ww checking for symptoms, no POAS 5 days later...I could go on, but everyone here knows what I'm talking about!<br /><br />Her dad was SUCH a classic conservative, with zero empathy and no faith in his own daughter's judgement till the baby was in front of him and it was affecting his life directly. cmgrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08005743027324957289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-18581172242451844872013-07-30T19:06:58.255-07:002013-07-30T19:06:58.255-07:00Surly Mama I agree that there should be different ...Surly Mama I agree that there should be different perspectives of the SMC as there are so many situations and stories.Navigating The Rapidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17136888490226094765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-39463772806046226432013-07-30T06:12:47.936-07:002013-07-30T06:12:47.936-07:00I'm glad you alerted us to this yesterday -- I...I'm glad you alerted us to this yesterday -- I had a good time watching it last night. I suppose if any of us had made a documentary about our journeys, the story would have been completely different. Having a child for Nina clearly meant inspecting /reflecting on her relationship with her parents. <br /><br />I was pretty disgusted with the father but not surprised at some of his reactions, given his age and his general attitude. I couldn't really understand why Nina was so desperate for his approval (maybe it was for the doc, but she introduced the subject of SMC-hood by asking what he thought of it, etc, whereas I just told my parents that this is what I had decided to do!). And the conversation where she complains that he hasn't supported her as a single mother made my eyes roll -- he made it very clear from the start that he wasn't interested in bankrolling her life choices! (Although I wonder to what extent he actually did.) Given the size of the family house, I feel like her family is very well off, and maybe she was used to getting a leg up in all situations.<br /><br />I imagine the friends-on-call thing must be a perk of living in NYC with a bunch of transplants. I know a lot of people who have moved to Minneapolis from elsewhere across the country, and they're much tighter as a group than I've ever experienced with my own close friends. Luckily, my family lives in this area, and I have a great relationship with them, so I've never depended on friends the way I saw Nina do. Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03644501843801907359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-54721529066403896002013-07-29T23:42:08.353-07:002013-07-29T23:42:08.353-07:00I don't have cable so unfortunately I didn'...I don't have cable so unfortunately I didn't get to see it, hopefully sometime in the future I'll be able to. I'll be curious to see what other Choice Moms think or how they relate to her experience. Technically, she is a SMC. She's single. She chose to be a mother. But from the sounds of it that's were her and my similarities end. That's one of the problems with labels, it can group together a bunch of different people with different situations and experiences and equate them as being the same due to a small similary. How we answer the "daddy question" will be different just as it would be for someone who is a SMC through adoption rather than conceiving. I was talking to another single mom the other day and she couldn't understand why I didn't have time/couldn't afford to do some of the things she could (she's divorced, gets child support and the kids spend half the time with their dads). I finally just said I am not a single mom the way you are a single mom. Just as in the SMC community there are different ways of being a Choice Mom. I would like to see a documentary on several Choice Moms and the different journeys they had. SurlyMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15933109106254963802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2688810272914203813.post-90370087294685160232013-07-29T22:05:08.341-07:002013-07-29T22:05:08.341-07:00I think it depends how the relationship plays out....I think it depends how the relationship plays out. If there's financial support from the bio father, I'd have a hard time calling the mother a true SMC. Same goes if there is regular visitation or care provided by the bio father. Being an SMC isn't just about getting pregnant and giving birth (or adopting), but about raising that child as the only parent and having to wear multiple hats, face the difficult "dad" questions, and take full responsibility for that child 100% of the time. cmgrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08005743027324957289noreply@blogger.com