Today I visited a friend who just had her second baby a week ago. I asked how the birth went, and she said not good. She was another person who was really traumatized and needed to talk about it. I wish I could offer my services to listen to women vent about their crappy birth experiences! I never tire of hearing it and it seems like a much needed service in the world, especially to new mothers who can't afford/don't have time to seek out professional therapy. My Kaiser midwife asked if I ever saw the therapist she had recommended - who has time for that, with a newborn? Or the money?
It does freak me out a little that her second birth experience sucked. In order for me to seek out a second pregnancy, I have to believe the following with all my heart:
I will get pregnant easily
I will not lose the pregnancy
The baby will be normal & healthy
The birth will be better than last time
None of these things may end up being true. But I have to convince myself they will be true in order to be able to march forward. A little denial never hurt anybody, right?
At least I'm encouraged by this new spate of early genetic tests - ones that were only being released to the public around the time B was born. This MaterniT21 test can detect chromosomal disorders as early as nine weeks, is non-invasive and therefore zero risk, AND you can find out the sex! How awesome is that?
Equally awesome is an upcoming documentary about choice motherhood called First Comes Love, airing on HBO next month. I listened to an interview with the filmmaker and can't wait to watch it.