So, single mothers of boys, don't take this the wrong way when I'm slightly creeped out when on this day you mention having a "date" with your son, or that he's your special little Valentine, or that you spent the day doing Valentine's- type stuff together. I know it's just cute and fun and as usual I'm the weirdo. It's not you, it's me.
But...I refuse to get in the spirit of today. Valentine's Day is for lovers, period. And as I am not having an adult sexual relationship at the moment, this day is as meaningless to me as your birthday. Nice for you, but not relevant to me. So I appear to be the only one on Facebook not posting cute cards and pictures of themselves and their kids doing crafts. I know some day, especially when B is in school, this will be different. I know like all parents today I'll be stuck making pink cupcakes and hand made Valentines for every teacher, student, janitor and administrator in the school lest my fellow parents accuse me of being a self-centered jerkoff. But until that day I say this "holiday" simply does not apply to me, a single woman. So there.
It's funny how I still feel inadequate on Valentine's Day even though I never, ever had a good one - like a fellow blogger I think I was actually in a relationship maybe once or twice on the actual day; and the one I remember was in my early twenties when I had to cajole my British boyfriend into taking me out to a crappy overpriced dinner, and he sat there the whole night complaining ("whinging" he'd call it) about how expensive and lousy it was and how much of a scam Valentine's Day is, just set up by Hallmark to make money on card sales, etc. And all of this was at least partially true. But is that the guy you're going to marry? Nope.
Personally my favorite Valentine's Day ritual is to watch Picnic At Hanging Rock, a bizarre 70s Australian movie about an actual disappearance of turn-of-the-century school girls on a St Valentine's Day picnic. It's a Peter Weir film so it's slow and moody and odd - and has spawned many catch phrases in our family; the main one being "she's quite intact", spoken by the examining doctor after one of the missing girls is recovered. Speaking of which - it's possible to get your virginity back even after having a baby, right? Because I think I've got something like that going on over here.
On that note, Happy Valentine's, everyone!